The other fundamental difference is that the counsellor will offer very little actual advice which may, at first, seem rather strange. The reason for this, however, is quite straight-forward as the whole point of counselling is to help people develop insights into their own problems or situations and for them, with the encouragement of the counsellor, to draw from their internal resources (resources which they may not have realised that they possessed) and handle their negative situation in an effective way. An example of this could be someone who is being harassed or bullied in the workplace being taught to act more assertively, or the person who has suffered from an unprovoked violent assault from a complete stranger and is now terrified of leaving the house being made to understand the unlikelihood of the event ever occuring again.
Counselling has helped many people cope with and eventually overcome problems with difficult relationships, conflicts in their home and working life, feelings of being overwhelmed in particular situations and many other areas though it is particularly successful in addressing a sudden (at times catastrophic) event that was completely unforeseen. Victims of violence, people who have experienced the sudden death of a close family member, or have been caught up in an unexpected event such as a car accident or even something as extreme as a terrorist attack have hugely benefited from counselling and it is a practise that is being increasingly adopted by institutions as diverse as the NHS, the police, the clergy and trade unions.
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